When They Start to Move

A Child Crawling

My twins recently turned nine months and I am thrilled, especially because I keep counting their age almost every day. With each passing day come changes, irreversible milestones that are both exciting and terrifying.  Think of that first time when they attempted to sit down at four months and wouldn’t stop tipping over, or that first time when they started rolling over.

Now at 9 months my twins won’t stop moving. They want to stand holding on to furniture or anything that may provide support for that matter, they want to reach out and grab everything, regardless of what it is. Most shocking though, they are no longer scared of getting off the bed during bath times. I still can’t wrap my head around how I found my daughter under the bed the other day, or how my son wound up standing on his own, holding on to his cot, all the while laughing at my sight.

As a first time mum all these changes can catch you by surprise. For this reason it is always important to be prepared, so as to avoid any accidents.

Here are a few ways to child proof your home.

Ensure Furniture will not fall and land on your toddler. You can move furniture around to give them more space.

When they start getting up on their hands it is time to remove those hanging toys in their crib. Also ensure that the crib is a distant from any windows or any other furniture that they might try to climb on. The drop side of crib should also be kept up and locked when you’re not in the room.

Baby Room

Avoid leaving your baby alone on beds, sofas, high chairs or anywhere else they could fall off. At this age, I find it safer putting them on the floor on a safe area prepared especially for them.

Make sure there are no chocking hazards around their space. Additionally, keep sharp objects and any breakables, or any other dangerous objects far from their reach.

Children love to explore. Keep electric appliances unplugged and out of reach. Install safe plates on electricity outlets. Conceal wires using wire guards and keep them away from any electric sources altogether.

If you have stairs in your house, it is probably time you started thinking of installing a safety gate at the top otherwise they might get off their bedroom and decide to wander down stairs. You should also control access to unsafe areas by investing in door locks or setting up safety gates.

Even if you feel like you’ve done a thorough job child proofing your home, you’ve probably missed one thing, and you can also not underestimate your child’s intelligence and understanding of things. Always ensure that either you or someone you trust is watching over your child.


Coping With the News of Expecting Twins

When my husband and I found out that I was pregnant, we were both thrilled at the news, having encountered a loss earlier on. A bundle of joy added into our lives would be such a pleasure.

The first time that I went for a scan was at 7 weeks and unfortunately, my partner wasn’t with me as he had to go to work but we had agreed that I needed a check up as soon as possible. What we did not know is the surprise that waited.

When the gynecologist at AAR Thika suggested a scan, I was a bit apprehensive. My husband was not here, and getting through it alone only revived memories that I wanted buried, having undergone a scan after the loss.

When they told me that I was carrying twins, I did not believe it. How could I? There was the memory of the loss so fresh, we had no history of twins in our family and there was no way this would happen. Tears welled up in my face as all these questions flowed through my mind.

Casting my doubts out aloud, the sonographer had no choice but to call the gynecologist in and he too, confirmed it.

I could not wait to tell my husband and so as soon as I was done, I gave him a call and gave him the news and I could tell from his voice that he too was surprised. He had once joked in the past that he would be a father of twins and to think that the dream was coming true was exhilarating.

Receiving the news that you are expecting multiples can be a time of mixed emotions; this is how to calm yourself down.

Speak to someone who understands your anxiety. Closest family members or friends are a good place to start.

Plan ahead. There is so much that you are going to need with the coming of the new visitors. Planning it all ahead and getting what you can in advance saves you lots of trouble last minute.

Get help and support. Besides family and friends there are other networks that are out there to support expectant mothers. For those expecting multiples perhaps its already time you joined Multiples Blessings a Facebook group that has helped a lot.

Read up on experiences; gain as much knowledge as you can. Also attend those Lamaze classes if you can. Nairobi Hospital has great ones. They will help you a lot.

Meet couples with babies or multiples if that’s what you are expecting. I am personally blessed to have two neighbours who have older twin boys. Watching them play gives me so much joy as I look forward to the future. Two of my friends also have twins and walking this journey with them has been one of my greatest gifts.